Whether you're weeks out from a breakup or years into an amicable-on-paper divorce that still hurts, we'll work through the shock, the loneliness, the identity questions, and the practical realities of rebuilding a life you didn't picture living alone. There's no timeline you're supposed to be on — we'll go at the pace your nervous system can actually handle.
IFS is the foundation of how I work. Instead of treating your anxiety, anger, or shutdown as problems to eliminate, we'll get to know them as parts of you — each with a job, a fear, and a story. As we build trust with those parts, you'll likely notice you feel less at war with yourself, and more able to respond to hard moments instead of being run by them. This work goes beneath "coping skills" into the actual architecture of why you feel what you feel.
If you find yourself anxious in relationships — overanalyzing texts, fearing abandonment, losing yourself to keep someone close — we'll trace that pattern to where it started, usually long before this relationship. Understanding your attachment style isn't about blame. It's about giving you real choice in how you show up next time.
Losing a relationship is a legitimate loss — of a person, a future, a version of yourself — even though there's no funeral and few people checking in on you a month later. This work makes room for that grief fully, without rushing you toward "moving on" before you're ready.
You deserve a therapist who understands the layered realities of queer relationships and identity without needing an explanation first. This is affirming, judgment-free space to work through relationship endings, relationship patterns, and everything tangled up in both.